Going to the beach with the family is a lot different than heading out for a solo surf. For most of us who are new parents, and used to a more spontaneous free-form type of surf session, getting adjusted to a new mode is a steep transition. It takes planning, creativity, a little restraint, and a different mind-set to make the most of family surf excursions. Below are five tips on how make it count when you’re with your whole crew.

1) Expand your quiver, expand your mind. Prepare to make the most of your precious time in the ocean. Don’t hesitate to ride a longboard, grovel with a fish, pull out swim fins and a handplane, or mix it up in any other way that might inspire you. Go with what your local break calls for instead of forgoing the opportunity when conditions are not stellar.

2) Refamiliarize yourself with the resources near your go-to surf spot. Pack the stroller and explore while your better half paddles out. Look for parks, play structures, natural nooks, cafes, libraries, or walking trails that might help you pass the time and keep overfroth vibes at a reasonable level until it’s your turn to surf.

3) Get Mom in the water. If she surfs, she’s probably in need of a little ocean time. Buy a watch and make a plan that allows both parents to paddle out. Try not to get too distracted by finding that last good wave to go in on, or worry too much about the guy paddle battling you a little overzealously out the back. Lower your standards, get a few, and go in. Your whole family will remain more stoked on the idea of future family surf sessions if you can reign it in a bit.

4) Coordinate a cooperative effort. Other parents who surf are undoubtedly jonsing to get in the water too. There’s power in numbers. You can watch their kids and they can watch yours as you paddle out. Recruit aunties, uncles, cousins, grandparents, friends with kids, or anyone else who’s likely to get on board – and trustworthy enough to keep the groms happily distracted while you paddle around for a bit.

5) Keep the kids safe and stoked. If they’re not having a good time neither are you – and your chances of getting out there on a more frequent basis may decrease. Set up camp on the beach with an umbrella or tent to create some shade, slop on sunscreen, haul sand toys to the shore, and supply ample snacks and hydration. The goal is to get everyone psyched on the experience so surfing will continue to be a regular part of your life.